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One of the most insidious forms of minimizing language is the characterization of bigoted views as mere "opinions."

One of the most insidious forms of minimizing language is the characterization of bigoted views as mere "opinions."

Another form of minimizing language is the mislabeling of harassment as a mere "difference of opinion" This obscures the reality of abuse.

Here are some actions we can take to ensure that hate, prejudice, discrimination and violence are given no space to thrive in our community.

When backlash crosses the line into hate, it must be immediately called out for what it is.

Minimizing language are words and phrases that downplay the severity, harm, or unacceptability of acts of hate, prejudice, and injustice.

Language is a powerful tool that shapes how we perceive and respond to the world around us.

I believe we must have the courage to name hate clearly when we see it, just as Lady Gaga did in response to hateful comments on the post.

Looking back, it's clear that I was experiencing gender dysphoria – the distress a person feels due to a mismatch between their gender ident

Drag is not inherently sexual and drag queen story hours for children are not the same as adult-oriented drag shows.

After a year 'dancing' through hard moments as I navigated health challenges, I am returning to publishing content.

Image by Igor from Pixabay As the years click upward from 2023 to 2024, I look forward to promises of the new year and take time to engage in my personal rituals that help me set the tone for the coming year. Rather than making resolutions, my traditions allow me to consciously focus on the type of year I aim to have and help ensure that the promises I see are realized. So, what are my rituals? In the days leading up to January 1st, I do a deep clean of my home, tidying up th

Destigmatizing Abortion Discussion Series Destigmatizing Abortion: The Realities of LGBTQ+ Healthcare Part of Planned Parenthood Keystone's continuing series on destigmatizing abortion, this event features stories and experiences of people navigating gender affirming care and how it relates to abortion access. These are crucial conversations about bodily autonomy that we need to be having in our community, and we will give you the tools to have them. This event is done in par

The secret to staying young is to not have friends your own age. And what I mean by that is have so many friends who are so much younger than you. They bring a whole new worldview to you. But you can't just be friends with these younger people. You must listen to them. You must appreciate what they have to offer and if you cannot do that then you cannot be their friend. And if you cannot be their friend, then you were only going to be friends with those who are your own age o

As you head to the polls today, I want you to understand 3 things:

How my ADHD works. THE SHINY I see a shiny. I can't ignore the shiny. I follow it into the depths until nothing else exists but the shiny. I can learn and know everything about the shiny. Suddenly there's a new shiny. I can't ignore the new shiny. I follow it into the depths until nothing else exists but the new shiny. I can learn and know everything about the new shiny. But now I can't remember anything about the before shiny. There is only the now shiny. But then. . . The b

My heart was shattered by the news of the Club Q shooting and the weight of Transgender Day of Remembrance yesterday. I had been prepared to post about the meaning and sadness of remembering those our community had lost to violence and a need to recognize that violence is more than guns, and knives, and beatings. It's violence of all kinds. Emotional abuse, spiritual abuse, political abuse, bullying, harassment, and disownment. They are all violent acts that take lives. Somet

5 November 2022 Christmas has become 5 months of mourning Christmas-that-was followed by a 1 month Christmas in July resurrection that precedes 2 months of pinning for Christmas-to-Come which leads up to 3 months of Christmas advertising and an ever increasing amount of toxic Christmas "cheer". Playing Christmas music in public spaces is a nonconsensual and coercive act of forced participation in Christianity. The first Public Christmas song I encountered this year was the s

10 March 2022

You all don't hear a lot about my Coffee Me personalities anymore. There's a reason for that. They were a fun and light-hearted way for me to deal with the mental health load I was struggling under; pandemic, toxic home environment, years of destructive political attacks, money worries, increasing anxiety over "everything", and just the general stress of working and owning a business. I was exhausted by the effort to navigate these and yet could not afford to slow down, take